For those who have experienced bereavement, Mother’s Day can be a difficult day not only for those whose Mother has died but also for those who are grieving the death of a grandmother or child.
There is no right or wrong way to get through the day, but Barnsley Hospice’s Lead Counsellor, Janice Blackburn has shared some tips for coping with grief this Mother’s Day.
Be kind to yourself
It is natural to find the day difficult, so try your best to accept this and not put any pressure on yourself. Activities that you find relaxing might help to soothe you and can bring an element of self-care to your day. This could be meditation, reading or simply taking a walk.
Ignore the day
If you feel like you will not be able to cope with the emotions of the day, you may want to ignore the day completely. It doesn’t have to be a special day for you anymore – it might have been that you celebrated it enough whilst your Mum was alive.
Write a letter
Writing a letter or card to your Mother may bring you some comfort and help you feel closer to your loved one. Alternatively, writing your feelings in a diary or journal can help when dealing with grief and strong emotions.
Share special memories
Taking time out to reminisce about your favourite memories of your Mum may allow you to reflect on your happy times, with others that loved her too. You may choose to do something symbolic alongside this such as lighting a candle or looking through photographs.
Spend time outdoors
Although it may not be possible, spending time outdoors, either for a walk or just taking a seat, can help with the strong emotions of Mother’s Day. Being out in the fresh air can help to clear your mind, and help you feel more present. Take note of your surroundings, focus on the things around you and try to feel more mindful and in the moment.
Make your own choices
Listen to your heart and do what is right for you. Grief is a very unique and individual experience and only by listening to yourself will you find what is right to spend and celebrate Mother’s Day.
We offer free bereavement counselling to people experiencing grief after someone close to them has died as a result of a life-limiting illness. If you would like to find out more information about this, visit the counselling services page on our website.
